Culture Transition Tip #10 – Professional Advice
Tags: expat, expatriate, move overseas, new job, relocate, work, workplace adjustment
Learn to Feel at Home Anywhere in the World
As “Inception” is no doubt a film that people are watching all over the world, I’m curious, for those who saw it – what do you think happened at the end?
It seems to me that there are two possibilities – Leonardo’s character woke up from the job on the airplane, or he is still in limbo.
The only argument I can think of to support him being awake is that the powerful cocktail of drugs did not impact the inner eardrum, (so it was said in the film) so the “kick” awake could have happened on descent of the plane. (However, since airplanes tilt frequently in flight, I am perplexed why nobody woke up before landing.)
I believe Leonardo’s character is still in limbo at the end. Here’s why:
** What’s your opinion? Cast your vote here
We tend to think of Culture Shock as something that only affects us when we move to a different country. The truth, however, is that culture shock can occur even with domestic moves. And, the experience can be more impacting because you didn’t expect it. Expats, in particular, often go through two sets of adjustments – one being a new country, the other being a new city.
One of the most obvious times that this type of double culture shock will occur is when moving from a small town to a big city, such as New York. I remember when I was in college, I had a friend from Peoria, Illinois. I still remember his fascination as I described my high school being five stories tall, and he said, “You mean, in New York, the buildings go UP?!” In his town, he was accustomed to buildings that sprawled out on one floor.
This is a perfect example at one of the first differences you may notice – building size, and height. Sometimes when I return from a vacation to a place like Arizona, even I feel momentarily claustrophobic in Manhattan. This is one of the possible impacts of moving to a big city – you may feel enclosed, boxed in, seeking out sky, and seeing only huge towers in every direction.
There is something about “the big city” that also impacts social behavior. In big cities, it is more likely that people will be in a rush. They may be late for work or an appointment, and their eyes are often cast downward, or straight ahead, focusing on getting where they need to go. People walk with purpose, as if there is not enough time. In a smaller town, people are more inclined to stroll leisurely. Time seems to actually move more slowly, and if you try to rush, everyone will probably have a nickname for you! People are also more likely to look one another in the eye, say hello, or at least smile, as they pass one another.
This brings me to another point – the experience of being known. In a small town, people look at you, and notice you. Even if you feel lonely, you’re likely to find that someone will ask how your day is going, even if they are a relative stranger. You may even know and spend time with your neighbors, or store owners. In a big city, it’s much more likely that you’ll be isolated – it’s a bizarre paradox, actually. There are so many more people to meet, but everyone is wrapped up in their own worlds, and don’t seem to have time, so they are less likely to get to know you, and you can easily go an entire day without exchanging any more words apart from “Excuse me” and “I’ll have a ham sandwich on whole wheat bread.”
Another potential downside of moving from small town to big city is how much trust you can have in people. I once dated a man from a small town in Ireland. I felt awful for him one day when we met for lunch and he told me that a man in the street approached him, told him he had an urgent situation and needed to call his family, but had no money. He asked my boyfriend to loan him a few dollars, which he promised to return. So, my boyfriend, being accustomed to honest, well-intentioned people, loaned the man $20. The man then ran off, never to return.
Transportation can be overwhelming in a big city. If you’re used to walking, or perhaps the “Main Street bus”, you’ll find the metro or subway like navigating veins and arteries in the bloodstream – impossible to follow or make sense of until you get used to how they function, which lines work best, and best points to transfer lines. And, on the streets, you’ll shift from slow traffic to what feels like a race car track you’re trying to walk across during the Indie 500!
Now that we’ve looked at some shifts to expect, let me leave you with a few tips on how you can make the transition a bit easier, and find some familiarity among the “iron jungle”:
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I was recently watching a cute flick (well, I guess it could be considered cheesy, but hey, I thought it was cute!) In it, the main character, Daphne, an American from New York, goes off to London as a teenager to find and meet her father.
While in England, she encounters massive cultural shifts. Her father is a Lord, and is running for political office. He is surrounded by demanding political advisors, and a social-climbing fiancee. Daphne, who is accustomed to casual dress, a tiny apartment, and very low-key lifestyle, enters into a world of wealth, a huge house, and frequent parties with royalty for which she must wear elegant gowns. She hugs her grandmother, who retorts, “No hugs, I’m British. We only show affection for dogs and horses.” Her father’s fiancee and her daughter are bent on getting Daphne to leave as soon as possible – sabotaging her efforts as often as possible.
The movie, despite whether or not you like it, demonstrates some important things to focus on when transitioning cultures and trying to make new friends :
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I just love this story – will Spain win today? Let’s find out!
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One of the things I feel happens “only in New York” is the bizarre coincidence of running into a long lost friend in the most bizarre of places.
New York is a city of over 9 million people. It’s HUGE. The fact that you can actually notice a single person, and that the two of you are in the same place, at the same time, without having planned it, is, well, seemingly impossible!
I was reminded of this coincidence just the other day. I injured my back recently and have been going to Physical Therapy for over a month. I always go at the same time, on the same days, and there are only 2 practitioners in the office. The other day, I ended up there earlier than usual, and as I walked in the door, heard my name called from the waiting room. I looked over and it was a friend whom I have known since the age of 2, but whom I have not seen for five years! It turns out that she injured her arm, and was also in Physicaly Therapy! Now, imagine this – two people who have not seen each other in years, both injure themselves in the same timeframe, and, out of all the physical therapy offices in Manhattan (and there are a gazillion of them!) end up not only at the same office, but each seeing a DIFFERENT practitioner so end up with the same appointment time on the same day.
I don’t know what it is about New York, but this happens to me fairly frequently – and when it happens, boy does the city, in fact, the whole world, seem tiny!
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